My daughter's current favorite song is Ed Sheeran 'Castle On The Hill'. She plays it over and over again, "Alexa! Play Ed Sheeran Castle On The Hill!" singing EVERY SINGLE WORD...even "smoking a hand rolled cigarette", which is very disturbing to hear your 8 year old sing. It was inevitable 'Castle On The Hill' would either … Continue reading To My Friends Who ‘Raised Me’…Thank You

To My Friends Who ‘Raised Me’…Thank You

How To Make Your Teen’s Consequence ‘fit the crime’

The difference between consequences and punishment can be the difference between involuntary cooperation and apocolypse now. Involuntary cooperation looks a lot like a teen who is clearly frustrated, not talking, irritated and rolling their eyes back into their head; however, they are cooperating and within control. Apocolypse now looks like a teen who has flipped … Continue reading How To Make Your Teen’s Consequence ‘fit the crime’

How to Cope When You’re The ‘Black Sheep’ In Your Family

If you've ever felt like the 'outsider' in your own family, you may find my story can help you process through your feelings. Family of origin feelings can be strong and difficult to sort out. Allow me to share my personal experience of growing up in a fairly close family, yet feeling like an 'outsider'. … Continue reading How to Cope When You’re The ‘Black Sheep’ In Your Family

How to Get Your Teen to Do Chores

Decide WHAT chores you want them to do and WHEN you want them done, then WALK AWAY When it comes to getting tweens & teens to do chores, it's helpful to have consistency, organization and a schedule. If you're constantly changing their chores, adding new chores, impulsively throwing random chores at them (to get off the screen or out of their … Continue reading How to Get Your Teen to Do Chores

How to Break Away From Family Dysfunction – Not As Easy As It Sounds

My daughter, who's birth inspired so much growth within myself. From Emotional Oppression to Speaking My Truth First of all, I am sharing this blog post with the hope that my story might inspire others who are ready to set boundaries. Secondly, I am sharing because I believe it's important people understand counselors are humans … Continue reading How to Break Away From Family Dysfunction – Not As Easy As It Sounds

How To Manage A Bully

It's a painful and helpless feeling to hear about your teenager being bullied.  I often think parents suffer as bad, if not worse than their teens when they know their teen is being bullied.  It's such a helpless feeling, all a parent wants to do is protect their child. When I was younger I was … Continue reading How To Manage A Bully

How to Deal With A Disrespectful Teen

No one likes to be disrespected, especially by their own children.   As a parent, most everything you do is dedicated to helping your children become a better person, a better scholar, a better athlete, etc.  You disrupt your schedule to get them to school on time, the endless doctor appointments, their extracurricular activities, a friends … Continue reading How to Deal With A Disrespectful Teen

Government Shutdown Stories…

Yesterday, my daughter had the day off of school so we had the entire day to hang out and do mother/daughter things. Before the day got started we were cuddling on the couch, lazily watching TV and waking up. She was waking up slowly and I was lurking through Facebook on my phone, trying to … Continue reading Government Shutdown Stories…

How to Get Your Teen to Talk

Teens are well known for NOT talking to their parents.  Of their own free will or when asked a question.  Teens are stumbling their way through the adolescent stage of development, a stage of development that includes many aspects; one of which is developing autonomy. When I was a teenager I can distinctly remember my … Continue reading How to Get Your Teen to Talk