Putting the FUN in Dysfunction – Family Reunion Style

There are certain truths in life; what goes up must come down, the sun is a big ball of fire, snow is frozen rain and families put the FUN in dysfunction. How families put the FUN in dysfunction is unique to each family, like an individual fingerprint. As you read this, you may already be … Continue reading Putting the FUN in Dysfunction – Family Reunion Style

Stop Saying ‘Get Over It’

You've said it to others, "You just have to get over it". You've thought it to yourself, "Why can't I just get over this?. You've also judged or criticized yourself and others for not getting over it. The honest truth about the get over it mentality is that we don't get over it, we get … Continue reading Stop Saying ‘Get Over It’

3 Ways to Help Your Teen Manage ‘Burn Out’

It's usually when I least expect it. I convince myself I'm doing a great job managing and balancing stress and relaxation; until the fateful day comes when I go to bed at 5pm and can't get out of bed the next morning because I'm so tired. And thinking about going to work makes me want … Continue reading 3 Ways to Help Your Teen Manage ‘Burn Out’

How to to Survive The Backlash of Setting Healthy Boundaries in 3 Steps

'The only people who get upset by you setting boundaries are those who benefited from you having none' - Unknown You have worked damn hard to get this healthy. Setting healthy boundaries is NOT an easy thing to do if you have never done it before. People don't make it very easy. If you have … Continue reading How to to Survive The Backlash of Setting Healthy Boundaries in 3 Steps

College: Bribing, Cheating and Lying – Is This Really a Surprise?

What surprises me most about the recent college cheating scandal, is not the actions of the people who lied and cheated their way in, it's the surprise others have expressed that it even happened. Honest shock and awe that wealthy, powerful people would use their resources to get ahead. I can only conclude the people … Continue reading College: Bribing, Cheating and Lying – Is This Really a Surprise?

How to Mentally Prepare for High School

Mental Skills are, well, skills. Mental Skills, like any skill, require education, discussion and lots of practice to develop effectively and productively in order to achieve consistent results. When parenting your teenager, it's helpful to see these 7 mental skills as skills that require practice. It's harmful and counterintuitive to define teens based on their … Continue reading How to Mentally Prepare for High School

To My Friends Who ‘Raised Me’…Thank You

My daughter's current favorite song is Ed Sheeran 'Castle On The Hill'. She plays it over and over again, "Alexa! Play Ed Sheeran Castle On The Hill!" singing EVERY SINGLE WORD...even "smoking a hand rolled cigarette", which is very disturbing to hear your 8 year old sing. It was inevitable 'Castle On The Hill' would either … Continue reading To My Friends Who ‘Raised Me’…Thank You

How To Make Your Teen’s Consequence ‘fit the crime’

The difference between consequences and punishment can be the difference between involuntary cooperation and apocolypse now. Involuntary cooperation looks a lot like a teen who is clearly frustrated, not talking, irritated and rolling their eyes back into their head; however, they are cooperating and within control. Apocolypse now looks like a teen who has flipped … Continue reading How To Make Your Teen’s Consequence ‘fit the crime’

How to Cope When You’re The ‘Black Sheep’ In Your Family

If you've ever felt like the 'outsider' in your own family, you may find my story can help you process through your feelings. Family of origin feelings can be strong and difficult to sort out. Allow me to share my personal experience of growing up in a fairly close family, yet feeling like an 'outsider'. … Continue reading How to Cope When You’re The ‘Black Sheep’ In Your Family