Mental Skills are, well, skills. Mental Skills, like any skill, require education, discussion and lots of practice to develop effectively and productively in order to achieve consistent results. When parenting your teenager, it’s helpful to see these 7 mental skills as skills that require practice. It’s harmful and counterintuitive to define teens based on their progress or lack thereof in developing mental skills.
You would never define a toddler for their inability to walk on their first three tries; you wouldn’t worry they were doomed to never walk, you know with more practice they will eventually get it. Mental skills are the same way.
We are not born with these skills, they need to be developed.
Communication is an art as much as it is a skill. As the technology age progresses developing Communication Skills is even more important than ever. Technology is not going anywhere and it’s time to accept ‘screen time’ as a fact of life. That is why discussing a balance between communicating on technology and communicating face to face is so important.
Communication is more than the words we say or type; communication also involves facial expressions, body language, distance from one another…and it’s important for teens to learn how to develop these skills themselves but also to ‘read’ the communication from others.
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Assertiveness skills are helpful in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, meaning not allowing others to take advantage of you. Unfortunately, it’s all too common to see teens struggle with assertiveness. They often feel ‘mean’ if they appropriately tell people “No” or ask for something they need. Teens are also constantly distracted by what others may think of them. Teens who feel ‘mean’ by speaking their truth NEED assertiveness training and the permission or guidance to speak their truth. In addition, they need coaching on how to appropriately use assertiveness.
The ‘Assertiveness Skills’ resource has all you need to help your teen develop and practice strong assertiveness skills.
Empathy & Compassion are mental skills beneficial to teens because developmentally they are being encouraged by their brain to think about themselves. Biology has its reasons for the self-centered actions and behaviors of a teenager; it’s helping them develop their individuality and identity, who they are in relation to others.
The self-centeredness is strong, and if you’re a parent of a teen you have likely noticed how ‘selfish’ they can be. Therefore, having discussions about Empathy & Compassion with your teen will help them understand empathy & compassion, what it looks like, how it feel and why it’s important for healthy relationships.
Conversations about Empathy & Compassion are important, but teens will learn more about Empathy & Compassion by watching you model it.
Time Management & Organization is another mental skill developing during the adolescent stage of development, which occurs from 12 to 25 years of age. Time Management & Organization are skills that require consistent and mindful practice. In the resource you will find practical ideas for teens to begin developing the skill of time management & organization.
While working on mental skills have patience; teens require repetition, failure and a lot of patience to learn.
Bullies happen. They can pop up anywhere, in elementary school, middle school, high school or adulthood. The odds are good your teen will encounter a bully at some point in their life. Teenagers are often told by adults to ignore the bully, tell an adult or talk to the bully.
Unfortunately, those things have a very low success rate in managing a bully. So the question becomes, how do you help a kid manage a bully? I developed Sarcasm & Confusion years ago, an effective method to manage a bully and get them to stop. It works to stop a bully from making your teen a target. Sarcasm & Confusion give adults something effective they can teach to a target of a bully. Download the resource Sarcasm & Confusion to learn more!
Teens often tell me “I don’t know what to say” when it comes to making a new friend. Make & Maintain Friends includes helpful ways to start a conversation with peers. A supportive and respectful peer group is very important to teens, they thrive from having a group of their peers. Socialization helps teens develop their identity and how they relate to the world, as well as how to have healthy relationships.
It’s helpful in developing an identity to see yourself through the eyes of peers.
Confidence is not something we are born with, it’s something we develop. Support your teen with practical ways to build their confidence. One of the best ways to help your teen develop a strong foundation of confidence is to believe in them, have faith in them, that you know they will do the right thing when the time comes. They will follow your lead and believe in themselves because you gave them reason to.
These 7 important Mental Skills for school and life that I have found myself working on most with teens in counseling sessions. The resources I developed utilize practical methods and easy to understand explanations. Parents, teachers, counselors and even law enforcement have found these resources helpful when working with tweens and teens. Even if it’s simply to understand them better!